Updated: Dec 20, 2021
When I first started my fitness, health and wellness journey I was a completely different person with a completely different mindset, perspective, and focus. I started running not because I considered myself an "athlete" or a "runner" at the time. I started running to save my life. Initially, running felt hard. The more I did it the better I got. After years of abuse and trauma, I had been conditioned to believe the worst about everything (including myself) and the idea of considering myself a "runner" was laughable. The shift that needed to happen was bigger than my physical ability to trot and pick up my knees. What little confidence I had built up was gone in the blink of an eye the minute I felt threatened and intimidated by other people judgements and unkind words on and off the pavement. This was an eye-opening moment for me. In this moment, I had come to realize everything that anyone had ever said about me to my face or behind my back I actually believed to be true for myself and if I continued to think this way I would always find myself traveling back down the rabbit whole with little to no confidence.
My first year of running I learned two very valuable lessons: ( 1.) Being healthy is more than working out and eating balanced meals. If your headspace (mental health) is disrupted your body will not perform at its best. (2.) You have to be committed to the journey, not just the destination. The path you take to get where you need to go might be boring at times, but it is essential to stay committed to the journey each step of the way. Commitment in the process is key. The process, the journey forward is not always fun, and you may experience pain and roadblocks along the way, but if you focus only on the challenges, you will miss out on the moments that could be just as memorable as reaching the destination itself. You will never know what could happen, what you may see, or what wild adventures are waiting for you if you quit before you start. The same is true for life. We let fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of actually being good at something, fear of what other people will think and say, and our own insecurities to cause us to run away from the things that will challenge us to grow.
If I had to give you one, two, or maybe three health coaching tips it would be to make sure your thoughts are not limiting you. Think about what you want to happen instead of what you do not want to happen and push forward. When you go into something with a negative thought "I cannot do this", you have already set yourself up for the worst possible outcome without even trying. How do you know you can't if you don't try?! When you push yourself pass your limits, doubts, and where you thought you could not go, the challenges and obstacles in front of you in your day to day life or in running, you get stronger - mentally and physically.
Health coach tip number two: What other people think about you is none of your business. The real question we should ask ourself is what do I think about myself or how does this make me feel? If what you think about yourself does not align with the person you want to be in any given moment you have the right and the power to change, refocus, recenter, and realign your thoughts and response + actions so that you can show up as your best self for yourself.
Health coach tip number three: Healing is a lifelong process. If you want to heal your life, you have to go into your heart. Your heart speaks in a quiet whisper but because we have been conditioned to listen to the internal dialogue of the mind or we have a heart of anger, we ignore the language of the heart. Life is always happening. It is an inevitable cycle of circumstances, interactions, disappointments, achievements, and everything else in between ease and grace, and dysfunction and chaos. DO NOT let what you can't control (life, other people, etc.) be the reason:
· why you do not show up for you
· why you are toxic to yourself and others
· why you have a heart of anger and rage (no love)
· why you avoid forgiving yourself (forgive yourself and move the hell on)
· why you avoid tapping into your higher self (your super powers)
· why you quit on yourself, your purpose and passion
· why you do not follow through with the walk, run, jog, your fitness
Tap in, shoot your shot, and journey on with grace, compassion, self-love, and humility.
I will be the first to admit distance running like anything in life comes with its own set of challenges. Yes, it is physically exhausting. But running is, above all, a mental sport - "change your mindset, change your life!" It takes unbelievable discipline, self-motivation, and drive. You are accountable to no one. It is just you and the road. You get to show yourself what you are made of, no one and nothing else matters. Do not let fear and intimidation stop you from being a rising warrior on the pavement and in life. Always show up. Always be proud of the work you did today.
PLOT TWIST | MINDSET SHIFT | MY REALITY:
Contrary to popular belief, I no longer believe in bad runs or bad days. In my book just because something did not go according to my plan, my way, my will, it does not make it bad (I just may not always like the outcome and that’s ok). There is no need to get overly excited about ALL THE THINGS that are not within my control. Just decide and follow through on it. At the end of the day, things happen all day long that I have no control over and those things could potentially throw me off my A game (and sometimes they do). I experience a gamut of emotions and encounter situations that I would not have necessarily chosen for myself, but I pivot and adjusted accordingly (there may have been tears, talks with God, and a major meltdown in my head). I change what I can and keep going. I start my day a winner. I end my day a winner even when I don't always feel like one in that moment. I acknowledge my feelings and I have come to understand that those negative feelings do not confirm I am less than but affirm I AM everything. I do not always get it right but my intentions every day is to lead with my heart and achieve balance, not perfections. I did not fail at anything nor am I failing at life. I learned the lessons in what I like to call a teachable moment and propel forward. I did not lose anything. I gained insight, perspective, wisdom and knowledge. For me, if I put my pride and ego aside daily, it's all a big win and I have nothing to shame myself for. Every race + every marathon is a victory. Every time I run, I win.
I believe all of this to also be true for you. If you showed up for yourself today and finished the task at hand in spite of whatever came with the day (the good and not so good) you win!! I also believe you have the power to win yourself everyday by focusing on a balanced day + life, thinking positive, feeling good to yourself, having self-confidence, making sacrifice (being open to the idea), having patience in the wait, being clear on your intentions + desires, and by trusting everything always, in all ways works out best case scenario! Keep showing up!!!
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